My wedding and the one I gave for my daughter were a great deal of fun! Everyone had a great time, nobody wanted to leave, but I'm sure that you would have been abjectly miserable at either, since it is obvious, to me, that you are mannerless, incivil, full of yourself, and don't know how to behave. Great food, great bands, and lots of intelligent, happy people, just aren't things that you'd ever enjoy. ;^)
These are different times nopardons. I find it hard to believe the things people are describing but I guess it's true. It's one thing to have a cheap wedding because you don't have mone. However, poverty is no excuse for not having class.
I'm sure that's true. However, there are no hard and fast rules for throwing a wedding reception. Every couple needs to plan a day that is special for them.
Cyborg, I understand you don't want your wedding to be just another party. I agree with you - a wedding reception, by it's very nature, is the most special party you'll ever throw in your lifetime.
But I believe a wedding can be classy and have paper plates. My wife and I have been blessed with enough disposable income and our children have been blessed with well paying jobs so their weddings haven't had to be "paper plate" receptions. But we've been to plenty of them. And had lots of fun. As Christians (Catholics - as are nearly all of our friends) the marriage ceremony itself is the most special part of the day. Everything else is gravy. Family and friends come together and celebrate the creation of a new family. I'd rather hear a couple flew great-grandmom in from Italy, thereby honoring the families they came from, than that they spent money on fine China for a grand reception.
It's easy to get caught up in the wedding planning, but in the end a Christ centered marriage is what's important.
I'm sorry I'm preaching. I just think so much is lost of what's actually happening when people get caught up worrying about doing what's in some wedding planning book.