Posted on 07/13/2005 12:16:21 AM PDT by rawhide
Okay I will try to remember all that *lol*
Everyone should have the kind of wedding they want to have, but there are riles for each kind.
We had under 30s at my daughter's wedding and nobody was upset or ignored the place cards. And the same was true, for all of her friend's wedding receptions.
Nobody gets served at the same time, at buffets, either.
But what, exactly has any of that have to do with the original topic of the thread?
The only thing I objected to in this whole thread was no pardon's decree that no single person should be invited to decide to bring a guest.... "So and so, and guest" is a very polite way to invite if you aren't sure. When they RSVP, they'll hopefully let you know if they are bringing a guest. But if cousin shows up with someone you didn't expect, and someone tried to throw them out, or tried to enforce some silly arrangement about where to sit, I'd be very ashamed. That isn't what's important.
Handwritten Invitations: $25 (fiancee was into caligraphy)
Wedding Ceremony: $20 tip to minister.
Flowers: $50 (friend was a florist)
Music: $0 (Another friend - she was horrible and totally mangled the wedding march)
Going through Krystal drive-thru in Tux and Wedding Gown: $0 (the staff was so shocked they gave us evrything for free).
Hot Dog/ Hamburger cookout reception with free beer in my parents backyard, in which our whacko lesbian friend got drunk and hit on my very religious sister-in-law, then went into a crying drunk fit on my mother's shoulder (who had never met her) - $75.
Having a wedding that on our 18th wedding anniversary we STILL laugh about and recall whistfully: PRICELESS.
Damn, I love my wife...
I know this about any wedding in my family, if the reception doesn't have alcholic beverages present, there won't be too much family at the reception.
It's not something I would do should it happen. However, I read there are ways to word an invitation so the likelihood of that happening is reduced. If an invitation doesn't say guest, a person should not bring one but if it says a guest may be brought along, I guess it's okay.
Really???
LOL!
Sounds great. :~D
I'm sure that's true. However, there are no hard and fast rules for throwing a wedding reception. Every couple needs to plan a day that is special for them.
Cyborg, I understand you don't want your wedding to be just another party. I agree with you - a wedding reception, by it's very nature, is the most special party you'll ever throw in your lifetime.
But I believe a wedding can be classy and have paper plates. My wife and I have been blessed with enough disposable income and our children have been blessed with well paying jobs so their weddings haven't had to be "paper plate" receptions. But we've been to plenty of them. And had lots of fun. As Christians (Catholics - as are nearly all of our friends) the marriage ceremony itself is the most special part of the day. Everything else is gravy. Family and friends come together and celebrate the creation of a new family. I'd rather hear a couple flew great-grandmom in from Italy, thereby honoring the families they came from, than that they spent money on fine China for a grand reception.
It's easy to get caught up in the wedding planning, but in the end a Christ centered marriage is what's important.
I'm sorry I'm preaching. I just think so much is lost of what's actually happening when people get caught up worrying about doing what's in some wedding planning book.
In the movie, one of the crashers tells the father of the bride or groom, that he is the son of the man's DEAD sister. And no, I don't know if that was bought, because that's when that clip ended. But it is far more than just INPLAUSABLE, for a man to not know the children of his sister and whether or not they were invited.
Any girl, who is bamboozled by a line, was looking to to be bamboozled. It has little to do with the guy and his "game".
With your mother in charge, I have no doubt whatsoever, that YOUR wedding will be done according to Hoyle. LOL
Really? What a lovely saying.
In fairness, this was her second wedding, I'm sure if it had been her first she wouldn't have been so laid back.
Neither of our parents minded the informality, they thought we were making a mistake anyway. Our lesbian friend is still whacko, but one of our most loyal friends.
I guess it depends on the person. Some people can get along with paper plates. I can't. It's just.. no way *lol*
Thank you. Yes, I have wonderful memories. However, memories don't keep you company, hold your hand, laugh with you and cry with you and snuggle up with you. When you have loved and been happy in that love, it is very difficult to face life without it.
There are rules for ALL kinds of weddings. Don't want to follow the rules? Then don't and don't. But panning any event is always easier, when one follows the rules and by stating some of them, I was showing that the whole premise of the movie was ridiculous.
I couldn't agree with you more!
Sometimes it's better the second time around :-)
What are you talking about? What question is unanswered?
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