The big difference is the uncivilized world compared to the civilized world. In the civilized world people are expected to "negotiate". In the uncivilized world, firearms are the mediator.
I guess that makes me uncivilized. I prefer firepower as the key to negotiation, rather than peace and understanding. Don't forget, there are also barbarians who shoot first and ask no questions. I don't think they are willing to give up their guns without a fight to the death, so once again the idea of utopian UN gun control is invalidated until all barbarians are eliminated.
You, sir, have captured a key understanding of effective negotiation - that ultimatums must be backed up by the ability to enforce them. I applaud your well stated perspective!