you said your husband can kill you and that is OK with you.
I beg your pardon...WHERE did I ever say that?
Here is what I have said:
"I would not want my mother (my only remaining parent) interfering in my husband's decisions, even if he chose the worse (not the better) and decided to let me die."
"I would not want the bond between my husband and myself broken by a parent, even if I believed my husband was making a bad, even a sinful, decision."
"If I was in an irreversible coma or unable to give any caring to my husband, I would not feel my husband had "abandoned" me if he started another relationship. I would forgive him for this."
I still don't understand what your objective is, and why I have to write a living will to prevent you from mandating a forced divorce from my husband if I go into a coma. I'm sure this isn't what you mean, but that is what it sounds like you are saying.
If one of the four goals I wrote you previously isn't the goal you have in mind, please clarify what your goal is? I want to help you achieve that goal without forcing divorce on married couples.