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"The reason marriage is waning is the women's movement. The traditional family structure is just not compatible with a society in which every woman works in the market place."

That's a mistake, placing blame on one gender or the other is not helpful. Changes for the worse in our societies is the real culprit. I bet my life on this, that there is a corresponding increase in infidelity and "one night stands" at the expense of matrimony.

How can we attribute one particular factor to this trend? I do not think we can, falling church attendance, lack of a moral and ethical framework, teenage sexual promiscuity and gangster culture role models, nuclear family is a thing of the past........

WHY ARE WE SURPSIED THAT MATRIMONY IS FADING FAST?

WHY ARE WE SURPSIED THAT MATRIMONY IS FADING FAST?

Great post, there isn't much wisdom in this thread, nice to find a bit of it. To put all the blame on "women" or "the feminist movement" is INCREDIBLY short-sighted. Society has gone through some incredible changes since World War I and continues to change for the worse at an incredibly rapid pace.

I agree its unfair to place blame on one sex or the other.

As far as infidelity goes, it's just a function of more opportunity. The most important factor in whether a person will cheat on their mate isn't their morals, and it isn't whether they have a 'cheating' personality (though that's a factor). It's being presented with the opportunity to cheat.

I think most people who do cheat on their mates genuinely don't plan on doing it. A lot of factors come into play: maybe they are dissatisfied with their mate, maybe they had a fight with them, maybe their mate alienated them somehow, and an opportunity to have uncluttered sex with someone they find appealing presents itself.

I think in most cases when it happens, it genuinely seems like a good idea at the time, even though it's a rotten idea. That's why I never understood it when people say 'don't you trust me?' or 'we have trust' - infidelity has almost nothing to do with trust at the early stages. Anybody who thinks so doesn't know human nature.

In any case, I wouldn't welcome back a cheater for one simple reason: the energy I have to expend to try and make that relationship work again is probably many times the energy I have to expend to cultivate a new relationship with a new woman (and that new woman doesn't bring me that baggage).

It's just the smart approach: if I were to dedicate emotional resources say at a level of 80 (on a scale from 1-100) in order to make my broken relationship while again, I can dedicate much less than that (say a 40) and wind up with a fresh, attractive, new woman who doesn't bring me that particular issue to deal with. It's a no-brainer, really.