How many so-called "alpha-males" have the strength and courage to be a father (not a sperm donor, a father) to eight children? My husband does!
I tell my daughters, "No man is perfect, but neither are you, sweetie!" If you find a man who will be honest, loyal, and a good father, you can pretty much work anything else out.
Nice idea but it usually doesn't work:
(a) She will not notice the flaws.
(b) Even if she senses some flaws, she will anticipate he can (and will) "change".
(c) If anyone disparages him, it will drive her even faster to him.