excellent post! I used to have a really bad victim mentality about my appearance but I would get angry that I would be whining so much. Actually, now that I think about it, I'm pretty embarassed at how jealous I used to get and upset. Now that I'm not single anymore and happy, more guys look at me *LOL*
Always stand up straight, because it makes everybody look better and NEVER ask him if you look fat because it's not about him anyway; there is no right way to answer 'cause you're not going believe it one way and your going to be mad the other; and finally, he probably hasn't noticed, so don't go pointing it out!
Early in our marriage my husband gave up and started saying "Do I look stupid?" Pretty much ended that.
And for that, they must die.