In our parish, they use the envelopes to track attendance, and those who don't make enough Masses lose the tuition discount at the local parochial school.
Except many of us are not allowed to accept the Sacraments under the rules that the Church has set. I am divorced and I don't go to confession, and therefore, I'm not supposed to partake in ritual. I'm not angry or bitter at the Church, and I want my children to grow-up in the Church and appreciate Catholicism. Why shouold the kids suffer because of the sins of the parents? (BTW, I still give several thousands of dollars A year to the Church.)
Punishing the children for their parents' sins is absurd. This pastor apparently lacks any pastoral sense.
I recall as a small child around 7 years old getting my father back to church after years of missing Mass by simply asking 'Why don't you go to Mass?"
He later joined KofC, Holy Name, ushers, helped with the parish bingo, was a founding member of the parish credit union, invited priests over for dinner often, lent the parish priests the use of our car, donated many Saturdays of his labor for parish renovations, and did various other sundry things. He became an example to me later in life.
This priest may have a laudable motive, but his methods stink.