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Truly there are bad "guys" involved in divorce and child support issues representing both sexes.

When I was divorced I received custody of 2 of my children and would have taken all of them if I could have.

My ex and I had equal incomes, but I still paid child support for my child that was with my ex. I didn't mind helping out all of my children, and paid for all the expenses for the two of which I had custody.

When I fell a little behind, I had to go to court and was ordered to pay the back child support, which was no problem. The DA noticed that I had 2 of the children, and her only one, so I was told that I could get support from her and would not have to pay her anymore. Her income was more than mine at the time, but I didn't ask for any money from her as I didn't mind supporting my own children.

That's my story, and it all turned our alright.

I know of another situation where the ex wife doesn't work (out of choice because she is qualified to have a high paying medical profession job) because she wants to live off of the income of the Father.

She lives with another man and has another child, and he has a child too. He pays very little child support.

They are trying to live off of the income of the Father, who is a hard working man who dotes on his kids. They have shared custody, and they spend more time with him than her as she doesn't like children.(except for the cash register sound she hears)

This is very unfair, but because she is on welfare, she has the DA as her attorney and they want to get as much money from the Dad as possible so they don't have to pay so much to her. A sad situation.

There seems to be more negative comments towards men (deserved for the deadbeats and those that don't want to support their children) then women, but they can be very selfish and and self absorbed regarding their relationships also.

I know of a case where a woman cheated on her husband with a man for a year, she didn't want to be married or so she said. But she didn't leave her husband.

He finally caught on that something wasn't right, and divorced her. He apparently didn't know about the year long relationship that she had while married, but she treated him so poorly that he finally got fed up with her games.

The sad part is she lied to all of her friends and played the victim to the hilt. She ended up with a new house and no responsibilities of children or pets or husband. Although she complained for a time about not having her "husband", her goal of having the attention of many men instead of just one was accomplished. (Now that's what I call high maintenance! LOL)

And he and her ex-lover were the bad guys. Go figure.