Children are expensive, esp. here in NY. Anyway, just because some lawyer screwed you doesn't mean that children don't deserve to be cared for. This is why God said 'I hate divorce'.
I live in the NY metro area.
It doesn't cost $3500 to raise a kid in NY.
It doesn't cost $2000 to raise a kid in NY.
There is NO excuse on earth why a child deserves such a high amount.
Kids do not own any part of their parent's earnings or wealth. Think about it, a child, when they leave the house, cannot sue the parent for their share of their parent's wealth -- it's not theirs.
$3500 a month is really alimony hidden under the guise of child support.
No excuse.