God never promised us that life would be fair. Your wife cheated, left, and took your child. When are you going to stop being the victim and bitter and get a hold of your life? Let go. You aren't going to get custody taken from the mom. Stop fighting with her. Forgive her. The best thing my son's father and I did was drop all the court fights and go to Coparenting Counseling. Court is not going to make things right for you. You know that!! It is only going to make you more bitter! The best thing you can do is forgive your ex wife and try and get along with her. The more you get along with her the better for your child. And I promise you, if you start doing this it may land you more time with your child. Coparenting did that for me, it got things I wanted with out having to go to court. It helps get rid of the "hate the ex" sydrome. She is not your enemy. Lay it all down and let it go is the best advice you will ever hear. Your anger will only land you farther apart from what you truly want, which is peace and more time with your child.
Well said and good advice. If only more would heed this counseling, and if only the father (who experienced suicide by cop) at the Federal courthouse in Seattle had heard it the previous week.
The other advice would be for all men and women to obey the commandments, but realizing that sin occurs, owing up to the responsibility is always the right thing to do.