I do not think you are right about deadbeat moms. The women are the ones who are stuck with abandoned children, victims of abuse, fathers who run off with their own lives, etc. I think your view is clouded by the pain of your own situation.
As far as the majority of dads paying support, perhaps that is true for the ones that don't have to go to court because they are deadbeats. It is possible to work out an arrangement between the parents, and avoid a detemination by the black-robed god, as you put it. But most cannot agree amicably on an amount, so the god takes over.
It sounds like you have a lot of hurt and bitterness and I only hope in time you can have peace over your situation and accept the things you cannot change. I wish the best for you and your child and a good relationship in the years to come with him/her.
LOL I knew would say that. My situation is not like that at all. I think you are the one with the clouded judgement or the bad experiance that you keep telling others they have.