What a small mind you have if that is how you view God's sovereign grace.
I love Him because he first loved me, and I am grateful. I don't love him because I am "programmed" to do so.
Widen your mind.
"Widen my mind" . . . . from a Calvinist.
Bwa ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha! [dabs a tear]
Ohhh! That's rich!
You are the one with the narrow fixation on God's sovereignity. We believe He is big enough to grant us actual freedom, so that we can actually freely love Him.
You believe He is a puppetmaster. Unthwartable.
SD