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Care for a senior is not cheap. Especially when they need round the clock care, as I assume a 91 year old would. Dementia &/or Alzheimer's care is pricey, especially in a care facility. Price depends on the type of care provided. My experience was nothing less than about $1200 a month for a "sitter" and steadily increased as need (and "skill") increased. Care for myy mother, who has dementia and Alzheimer's, would have cost between $4-6k minimum for at home care... which is about the cost of a descent Alzheimer's unit. I was able to place her in a "personal care home" (a home in a residential neighborhood where she has her own room and splits costs with 4 other "residents") where she gets round the clock care. Laundry, bathing, trips to beauty shop, cooking, medication, etc., are provided. She lives 10 minutes from me. I take her to all of her doctor appointments and out to lunch or shopping weekly (at least.)

You mentioned financial abuse... states vary on "enforcement" of the laws. For example, abandonment of an elderly Louisiana resident in the state of Tennessee doesn't guarantee arrest... because of state lines. To be payee of social security income (receiving and distributing SS for a person who can no longer do it for themselves) is monitored annually. Proving extortion of finances is a long legal battle. To be honest, you would be surprised at the ease and amount of "financial" abuse experienced by the elderly... seems to me because of how hard it is to prove.

My mother gets my fathers military retirement... retired AF officer. No monitoring occurs. Also, the "money" is not the only "assets". Who knows what the "family" is up to. All I know is... the story always went... deep throat's identity would be revealed when he died. Seems to me, that was "deep throats" wishes. This current revelation appears to be manufactured from "others."

This current revelation appears to be manufactured from "others."

Even if this is true, SO WHAT? Maybe the guy didn't think he'd live to be 91 years old? If others are making money off him, why shouldn't he? I don't understand what is going on here. Why make this such a grotesque story. It's pretty simple, if you ask me.

And that was my point...the daughter forced it out now..and rather than buying the argument that the family wanted to cash in..and there's nothing wrong with that per se...I was pointing out an obvious alternative theory..when he dies, they lose a substantial monthly income..which she has been enjoying for decades..