Actually, in reading the entire article, my neighbor's girl is just like this.
I want nothing to do with the family. My hubby doesn't get it. He really likes the husband and with the husband goes the daughter.
After putting my foot down months ago, my hubby decided to ask this guy for help in a project. With him came the 9 year old daughter. With no warning, I saw them out the window. I ran around the house closing curtains so my girls would not see her.
My hubby doesn't get it.
You are doing the right thing.
Sometimes hubbies just have a harder time with picking up on crap like that.
Stick to your guns, gal. Protecting your kids comes first. If you feel that there is something wrong with this child or she may present a danger to your kids, you are perfectly justified in putting your foot down. Show this article to your hubby, maybe he'll get it then.
I had a boy like this living next door in Sacramento around 1988. He was so bad that--instead of regular school--he had to go to a "FARM SCHOOL" which was meant to teach him to be kind to other creatures.
His mother was in total denial and always belittled anyone who tried to keep things "right" around him.
I'm sure he's in prison or dead by now.
Another vote of support for your action. I'm afraid it's late in the game to straighten out that 9 year old neighbor kid. I think some people don't realize that often the battle to raise a kid correctly is often won or loss VERY early. By the time the kid is walking the pattern should be set.