I sent it to him.
This really scares me. My older daughter is the type that everyone loves because she is so happy. Nothing gets her down. My little one is quiet and sensitive. She is very sweet, however she is really hush-hush when hurt.
I want this child no where around my girls.
Good luck, mom, and follow your instincts. I'm sorry this child already seems screwed up, but there's not much you can do about it, and you have to protect your own.
Sending it to him is the best you can do, besides what you are already doing by protecting your girls.
Keep it up, over time he will get it.
Would that my parents had been so astute when I was young.
A playmate of mine...about 3 yrs.older...was a little troublemaker.
But she was also a type of piedpiper, and could manipulate with the best of them.
It seems often I would have injuries whenever we played....the type of things that parents say 'don't do'....
..like crawl through barbed wire to play in a forbidden area.
..She always came away unscathed.....I got caught in the barbed wire and tore my leg pretty badly.
...there were other instances...
..but the one that finally got my parents attention...
..her father said to not play with his golf clubs.
Of course she did...and I was right with her.
I sustained a split face with broken teeth, and 3 plastic surgerie operations when I was only 10!
We moved shortly after that.----I didn't play with her any more.
Stick to your guns.
I was naive and stupid.
You obviously see her for what she is.
It sounds like you don't need any input from me, but I have to say it anyway. This is for your husband, not you:
When it comes to kids (and this is your kids), please listen to 'Mama's intuition,' no matter how crazy it may sound. A lot of time Daddy just can't "feel it" like Mama can!
< /nosey ol' biddy > :-)
Stick with it.
I have a friend who adopted a kid from Russia.
Kid is world-weary and knowledgable about adult things.
The kid plays the father against the mother, and let me tell you, the mother is losing.
The father doesn't understand that a kid can be bad.