Sure there is.
I have a problem with the way this came about. To live here for 20 years and not become a citizen is rediculous.
Let Gold Star evaluate their rules and make exceptions for someone who deserves it, not someone who applied with the intention of causing a S--t storm.
I don't have patience for that crap.
However...these excerpts from the article are worth considering:
Lagman's application was initiated by Ben Spadaro (search), a veteran from Yonkers, who said he learned about the citizenship rules of the American Gold Star Mothers (search) while working on a national cemetery committee of the Veterans Administration. When he learned of Anthony Lagman's death and saw Lagman was a citizen but his mother was not, he thought, "He's buried in a military cemetery, with full honors. She should be able to join."...
... "We can't go changing the rules every time we turn around," said Herd, the national president. "When we have problems within our organization with people not abiding by the rules, we just get it straightened out, we don't change the rules."
So...it seems to me an exception could and perhaps should be made for this Mom, especially since her son is an American citizen, and also for others on a "case-by-case" basis, but there's no need for a "blanket rule change", which as others have pointed out could have unintended consequences, and "Gold Star Moms" is a "private organization"...