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If you must know,, I live with my mother and sister by choice, and me and my mother share the lease on the house. I do NOT sponge off of my mother. in '96, after being in apartments for almost 6 years, (which I HATED,) we all decided to move back in together.(before late '90, we all lived in my mothers house). Me and my mother pay a majority of the bills, and my sister "helps" a little. This will probably be the way it is, until or unless one of us gets married(and I have pretty much given up on that idea). SO-- if you want to think of me as a loser, because I live with my mother, go ahead, I really do not care-- I have been called this by my own family, coworkers, schoolmates, churchgoers, and so on...NOT because I live with my mother, but because of my "old fashioned and fanatical" moral standards, and being different than most men, in that I care a LOT more about science ,technology and world affairs, than sports .

Why are you living with your mother and your sister and still referring to yourself as a "man?"????

I'll be 39 this year and I still live with Mom. My buddy that I have hung around with since 4th grade will be 40 and he is still at home too. My dentist is in his mid-30's, his parents are from China and he still lives at home and his mom still cooks his dinner. I fail to see any stigma in it and the fact of going out on your own at 18, 21 or whatever is relatively new in history as the result of the prosperity of the post World War II economy. Prior to that, it was common to have more than one generation under the roof, much like the TV show, "The Waltons," where a lot of times, the older folks helped raise the kids and to cook and so on. A lot of times, it was due to economic constraints too and we might be headed back that way. If you want a good background on multi-generations under the same roof, the economics of it thereof, circa 1895-1900, read "Susan Lenox - Her Rise and Fall" (1908. published 1917) by David Graham Phillips (1867 - 1911). For brevity's sake, I won't go into the plot but it was a very dark and sad book and I'm not happy the way it turned out but it did give me a lot of humility. Well Phillips basically made the point that most men stayed at home until they had the ability to marry and support a family, women had to stay wit the parents because the wages for them were so low and even then, if a couple got married, they stayed at one of their parent's homes until they could get a place of their own. If they were in a rural area, usually the family gives out a plot of land for a house, barn and to grow crops and whatnot. American history did not start in 1945 and the idea of moving out after high school/college is a recent phenomenon, an abberation of history if you will

In Europe and most of the world, this is the normal way to live and if I say so myself, I think the Europeans and Asians do have a leg up over us on this one, families do stick together.