This is EXACTLY what the DUmmies post too.
Your point being what exactly? I have heard several times people tell me how much they support our military, but would never encourage anyone they know to join up right now. Had people tell me how they oppose women fighting in Iraq, but their son is just starting his carreer in tv and appliance rentals and can't just leave his future to do what women are doing willingly in defense of the nation. I don't care who says it, it is a damn good point and not easily answered, as you apparently have found to be true.