Non binding issues from the bishops is no reason to enhance your leaving the Church. The Church is made up of sinners. Bishops, priests, nuns and laity are all sinners.
If you had sat in front of the Eucharist and asked for our Lord's guidance you might still be enjoying His fruits.
I am sure I am somewhat older than both of you and I have been screwed by some Church officials in the past but it never discouraged me to leave the faith. I just prayed harder for those people.
I'll pray for the both of you.