Other than structured time at school and 2 nights in a youth group setting, your kid sounds like a loner without personal friends to spend time and bond with. Just my 2 cents.
You sure did make a snap judgement on the simple statement that he plays video games 3 nights a week.
I guess I didn't mention the fact that there are kids playing in the same room with him. Neighborhood kids, cousins, kids that drive over. Sometimes they play 4 controllers at a time.
I also didn't mention the fact that he and his friends have "halo" parties where they set up the house with four different TV's in varios locations with xbox's, and 20 of them will play xbox all night long.
Or that on weekends, he doesn't play video games, but is gone off with his friends to movies etc.
"your kid sounds like a loner without personal friends to spend time and bond with."
You either don't know today's video games or you don't know today's kids. Most kids are online in multiplayer games, and know more folks than we ever did as kids. I certainly know and keep in touch with a lot more folks now that I'm online.
Plus, the games that were mentioned above are actually physically active games. From what I understand, one of the new Star Wars tv hookup games is actually going to include a lightsaber game--where you play with a saber!
Video games are getting better at including physical activity. It's not just gamer's thumb anymore.
Learn about what you're deriding before you are so eager to judge.