I think the major role of the church is "to equip the saints for the work of the ministry." Church members should be going out into the world and reaching people for Christ. Pastors ought to be going out through the week and preaching the gospel, then coming together with the church and teaching the meat of Scripture. Music is part of the worship experience, also important. But sometimes these fights over music reveal that it is not about worship but rather entertainment. That's sad. And the church is trying to be "seeker-friendly" because no one is doing their job throughout the week.
AMEN!
I think you hit the nail on the head here. In my local church, the pastor doesn't bother to call on the sick, visit, or perform any of the traditional roles of a pastor. Instead, he is running around the country holding seminars on "How to grow a church" when he can't grow his own. Oh, he's had hundreds of new people come, but hundreds of others depart, because it is "seeker friendly" rather than congregation friendly. A family member who was suffering from a very serious illness was never even given the courtesy of a prayer or visit. Instead, the failure to help them was blamed by saying "our home care group dropped the ball". THIS IS THE INDICTMENT OF THE SEEKER FRIENDLY CHURCH! They seek new members, but cannot take care of who is already there!