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To: najida; monday
Read everyone else's posts in this thread in regards to G....most see him as a selfish ass. And seeing the girl as being hurt. Excited over meeting her 'real' dad? I don't think so. At 13, she is already in the hormonal rages and self-doubt, this ain't exactly good news. The guy who she thought was her dad is sueing her mom for the money he spent on her...WOW! Gee, if that doesn't say 'I could not care less for you' than I don't know what does. Personally, I don't see the happy ending you see. I see a lot of adults doing selfish things that end up hurting a kid. Pessimism? No, just being a old lady whose seen too much :) ----Najida.

Actually looking at the posts 'most' do not see him being a 'selfish @$$.' I'd even say the opposite (and for the first time in forever i even saw fellow freepers saying positive things about France)!!!! LOL.

The thing is I guess most men will see this differently than most women. Which reminds me of something the mother of a close friend of mine once told me. She said that the only person who truly knows that they are the parent of the child is the mother, since it is the mother who actually carried the kid. The dad can think he is the father, he can believe, he can hope, he can pray, he can be adamant about being the father ....but only a DNA test can truly prove he is the child's sire (whether or not he is the father, which are 2 different things).

Women never have to go through such issues (unless it is the rare occasion when infants get switched by mistake at the hospital). But if you check California law you will notice many men who have been FORCED to pay child support for kids who are not their own, simply because they signed a birth certificate when the child was born (after being told by their 'significant other' that the kid was theirs).

My personal thoughts on the matter are filled with profound sadness at what the daughter is going through. And i can see you point on how this could hurt the kid (and furthermore if i was the guy i would not bother suing .....i would raise the child as my daughter and no one would ever know that i was not the sperm donor. Not even the deceptive mother, and certainly not my DAUGHTER). That is what i would do, and i pray to the good Lord that i never have to find myself in such a position. But i know what i would do.

Thus i would act in a divergent manner from Mr G.

All the same I can understand why he would do that. No one wants to be cuckold (check out the meaning of 'cuckold husband,' which is basically a man who is tricked by his wife to raise another man's kids). It is one thing to do it out of a position of knowledge, and it is another to be tricked.

And to be honest with you, even though i wouldn't do what the guy did I totally support this law. Especially over the California version that basically does the inverse. Raising a child that is not biologically your own should be a choice and not some obligatory rule just because the judges (like those in Calif.) feel that the child needs a father. And anyways, i doubt any guy who is forced to be a 'father' would be a good one in the first place. A father has devotion and affection for his child/children, and there is no way a forced decree would help in that respect. All it would do is prove child support money from a guy who had no part in the conception, while the actual responsible party is probably elsewhere getting some other woman pregnant.

63 posted on 05/03/2005 1:09:21 PM PDT by spetznaz (Nuclear tipped ICBMs: The Ultimate Phallic Symbol.)
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To: spetznaz
"and furthermore if i was the guy i would not bother suing .....i would raise the child as my daughter and no one would ever know that i was not the sperm donor. Not even the deceptive mother, and certainly not my DAUGHTER"

That is what this guy would have done too if not for the girls mother. See post #64 or read the whole article.
70 posted on 05/03/2005 1:28:32 PM PDT by monday
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