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I've frequently seen the subject raised, but not to "push." It's taught in medical schools that patients frequently won't bring up issues they're concerned about, especially related to "embarassing" topics. I've certainly seen doctors ask "Do you need information about birth control?" or something like it.

This is what I consider pushing. I vividly recall this conversation we had when we lived in a non-Catholic area and had to use are regular non-Catholic Ob/Gyn practice.

Doc: "I see that you've checked off that you don't use any method of birth control."

Wife: "Well, if I don't want to become pregnant, I'll use NFP."

Doc: "Don't you know how unreliable that is? I really think you need to use something better, because [looking over at our first two children - a boy and girl set of twins - along with my wife] it really looks like you already have your hands full, and you already have the perfect family too."

Wife: "Thanks, but I don't believe in birth control. And I really would like a larger family."

Doc: "Are you sure? NFP is like Russian Roulette. I bet I'll see you back in here pregnant again within 12 months."

Wife: "I doubt it, but so what if I did come back?"

Doc: "[With a brief look of horror] Why would you want to risk that?"

Wife: "Doctor X, I love my children and I would love to have more. Is that so hard to understand? You are an obstetrician. Why don't you want me to bring you more business?"

Doc: "Well, I can see you are pretty convinced of what you want to do. Still, I bet you will be pregnant again within 12 months. But lets move on to the next question ..."

Interesting. But nothing remotely resembling that conversation has ever happened to me.

Doctor: Would you like some information on birth control?
Me: No, thanks.
Doctor: OK.

Doc: "Don't you know how unreliable that is? I really think you need to use something better, because [looking over at our first two children - a boy and girl set of twins - along with my wife] it really looks like you already have your hands full, and you already have the perfect family too."

Your wife took two children with her to a gynecological appointment?? She couldn't find a babysitter? What did she do with them while the doctor was doing the pelvic exam?

If the doctor thought your wife was a bit overwhelmed already, there might have been a reason.....

This doesn't sound malicious, it sounds like maybe he was concerned for your wife. Perhaps she looked a bit pale or tired that particular day. Perhaps your presence at the appointment (rather unusual) gave him concern that there were control issues in the marriage.

I'm sure you are a loving husband and you make sure she has time to herself and to go out with friends. It is so important to do so in order to keep your sanity when spending the day with small children!

Otherwise, he didn't force her into birth control so just let it slide off your back.

Maybe living surrounded by like-thinking folks you have lost a bit of perspective. Always good to meet new people!