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Wedding stress can take a toll - (excuses for Wilbanks' caper...oh, for pete's sake!)
CNN.COM ^ | APRIL 30, 2005 | Staff

Posted on 05/02/2005 6:27:00 PM PDT by CHARLITE

'It's like being stuck in a river getting whisked over a waterfall'

ATLANTA, Georgia (AP) -- On the surface, Jennifer Wilbanks was a happy bride-to-be who showed no sign to friends or family that she wanted to call off her extravagant wedding.

But underneath, as she would later tell police after running away to New Mexico, Wilbanks was scared and not sure she wanted to go through with her big day.

Marriage counselors say Wilbanks' actions are an extreme but understandable reaction to the stress of the wedding and the fear of disappointing others by backing out.

"Sometimes it's like being stuck in a river getting whisked over a waterfall," said Dr. Charles Raison, a psychiatrist and Emory University instructor who has counseled people about marital concerns. "The current is so strong, you can't fight it."

Shame about canceling a wedding at the last minute can lead to feelings of helplessness, counselors say.

"They've committed themselves out there in public, to their partner, their minister, their community, their friends while they've been perhaps nursing some ambivalence, mixed feelings and they feel isolated without being able to share it with anyone

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TOPICS: Culture/Society; News/Current Events; US: Georgia
KEYWORDS: bridezilla; duluth; ga; jenniferwilbanks; jitters; runawaybride; wedding; wilbanks
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To: org.whodat

Oh well, I didn't know she has an affair with a married man and had canceled other weddings. If I had known these things I would have thought differently.


41 posted on 05/03/2005 5:48:19 AM PDT by Halls
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To: jocon307

I don't think they were living together. It was said last night on Hannity that she had started to move things in and she did stay the night every now and than, but that they had not had sex yet. However, whether or not that is true is another thing.


42 posted on 05/03/2005 5:50:02 AM PDT by Halls
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To: Azzurri
Heck, 600-invite weddings with 14 bridesmaids is probably the AVERAGE of every wedding I've ever been to in my life.

This sounds just plain nuts -- you could put a down payment on a house with that kind of money.

43 posted on 05/03/2005 6:41:16 AM PDT by steve-b (A desire not to butt into other people's business is eighty percent of all human wisdom)
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To: CHARLITE

Can you say "P-Whipped?"


44 posted on 05/03/2005 6:42:27 AM PDT by dfwgator (Minutemen: Just doing the jobs that American politicians won't do.)
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To: Halls

I had a great-great-great grandmother who arrived back home by horseback on the night of her wedding. Her mother had neglected to explain to her the scope of her wifely responsibilities and she was astounded by what her new husband was suggesting.

Could that happen in 2005? I don't think so.

The girl had EIGHT wedding showers! I know what gets discussed at those showers.


45 posted on 05/03/2005 6:54:31 AM PDT by ladyjane
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To: ladyjane

LOL, one of my dear friends mother was a virgin on her wedding night and no one ever explained to her anything about sex, and she had no clue what it was. My friend told me that on her mom's wedding night that when her father tried to get it on her mom flipped out and felt violated. It actually took some time for her to understand and years later her mom and dad are still married with 3 children and several grandchildren.

I had wedding showers and been to many, and sex wasn't a big topic, however if Jennifer has a lengerie shower that yes it was talked about or maybe joked about. I'm not saying she didn't know what sex was. I'm saying if she was a virgin which is always possible, that maybe she just got frightened of the idea of having sex. But if she has been in many other relationship, and one with a married man I'm sure she is no virgin.


46 posted on 05/03/2005 7:45:46 AM PDT by Halls
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To: Halls

You're right. People get frightened by all sorts of things. Transitions can be difficult. Sex is one thing, a name change might be another. The excitement of a new credit card with a hubby to pay the bills - now that's not to be feared.


48 posted on 05/03/2005 8:34:56 AM PDT by ladyjane
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To: ladyjane

LOL ladyjane, you know that is right!!


49 posted on 05/03/2005 8:43:06 AM PDT by Halls
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To: billorites

Shark eyes! I call her JAWS.


50 posted on 05/03/2005 8:44:36 AM PDT by angcat
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To: macaroona
I'm certainly not sympathizing with the crazy woman and her nutty boyfriend and I agree that she should pay a price for deceiving him and her family as well as the police.

My main objection is the endless rehashing of this tawdry event, because I think it puts her right where she wanted to be: in the spotlight.

Six months from now we'll be kicking ourselves for wasting time on this POS. Will you watch the made for TV movie? I think you will.

51 posted on 05/03/2005 8:51:11 AM PDT by metesky ("Brethren, leave us go amongst them." Rev. Capt. Samuel Johnston Clayton - Ward Bond- The Searchers)
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To: macaroona

"I guess we'll start minding our own business when we no longer have to have nation wide police searches for people who claim they were abducted and rig up things to make it look like they were."

I don't think you can say she rigged things up to make it look like she was abducted. Contrary to what some hacks have written this was hardly an "elaborate hoax". It was the assumption of her family, understandable, but still an assumption, that she'd disappeared involuntarily. Remember, even at the first the cops were saying it could be "cold feet". After the fact she did claim to have been abducted, but it seems like she stuck to that story for all of about 5 minutes.

The dame is flaky, but there is no reason to think that she was attempting to direct the national spotlight on herself, certainly not at the time of her disappearance.


53 posted on 05/03/2005 11:57:08 AM PDT by jocon307 (Irish grandmother rolls in grave, yet again.)
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To: CHARLITE

ACK!

Weddings give me hives (now where'd I put my Margarita mix??)


55 posted on 05/03/2005 12:11:36 PM PDT by najida (Living in my house with just a power cord, a garden hose & a bucket; what else does a girl need ; ))
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To: billorites

She'd have to be smarter than she looks. She looks like she's not capable of tying her own shoes.


56 posted on 05/03/2005 12:11:51 PM PDT by exile (Exile - Helen Thomas tried to lure me into her Gingerbread House.)
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To: billorites

You know, a lot of people are down on this guy for taking old googly eyes back, but I have a theory. After she pulled this stunt, he can pretty much get away with anything.

Crazy Broad "Honey, why are you in the hot tub with a busty brunette?"

Hubby, "Well, I'm not leaving you at the alter that's for sure! Now go and get me beer."


57 posted on 05/03/2005 12:15:39 PM PDT by exile (Exile - Helen Thomas tried to lure me into her Gingerbread House.)
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To: CHARLITE

"Weddings are terrible stresses on people," he said. "They really try people's relationships, especially when they're one of these big productions."

How much do you suppose it tries the relationships between prospective brides, and parents and fiance when they're terrified that she may have been murdered?


58 posted on 05/03/2005 12:15:52 PM PDT by righttackle44 (The most dangerous weapon in the world is a Marine with his rifle and the American people behind him)
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To: righttackle44; exile
""Weddings are terrible stresses on people," he said. "They really try people's relationships, especially when they're one of these big productions."

Wait until her water breaks with her first pregnancy, and the labor pains begin.

59 posted on 05/03/2005 2:45:23 PM PDT by CHARLITE ("People are not old, until regrets take the place of their dreams." - John Barrymore)
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To: CHARLITE

"Wait until her water breaks with her first pregnancy, and the labor pains begin."

I'd like to see her run from that.


60 posted on 05/03/2005 5:46:46 PM PDT by exile (Exile - Helen Thomas tried to lure me into her Gingerbread House.)
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