Who showed you Right from Wrong? Was your Dad your diciplinarian? Most adolecents & children need some form of tough love! Jehovah God designed the Family and put a man in charge. If not will you step up and be the diciplinarian in your own family or will you abdicate authority to a female figure of lesser authority and suffer the consequences?
actually it was my Mom more than my Dad.
Dad would sit down and talk with me. He would help me see the logic behind this and that or whatever.
My mom, the former MP, one time handcuffed me and my brother to show us what woudl happen if we did something stupid. at 8 and 6, it stuck....
As for the rest of that, I dont know. It depends. My uncle John had 7 kids and was away 85% of the time when his kids were young. All of them have turned out just fine, with families and careers and all that.
Man.... if you said that in my wife's family, you'd be lucky to get out with your skin and balls intact.