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Yours is the level-headed approach on this, after one gets over the shock. I agree. I just could not understand, from the beginning, why such a national media focus on this girl. It was as if the media was almost gleeful that maybe another Lacey Peterson story was developing. I was sick about their questions and focus. No one gave such a focus to that Asst. D.A. in Pennsylvania, and he is still missing.

When it is a child/minor it is different, and I am all for doing whatever necessary to keep that news in front of the public.

But sometimes, with adults, people just want to be missing. I think such disappearances need to be kept out of the national news focus. We have seen many times that adults plan their own "missing person" stories. I feel very sorry for her family and the anguish they have suffered for the past four days. I imagine if my adult daughter would turn up missing, I know I would want all the help and attention to find her. But that is a two-edged sword. Once the world is invited into your personal life, you loose control. Now, in addition to what was their fright, turned to relief, they have the additional burden of national embarassment.

I don't think this girl was "sick" in a major mental sense. Apparently she has great skill in planning: first a huge wedding, then a "get away," with no trail, and obviously enough awareness to cut her hair, have enough cash, etc. Quite an accomplishment, in essence.

But, this all shows something very reveling. With this girl it was all about "her." Her wishes, her wedding, her happiness, and her fears. It seems there is little consideration in her life - true consideration,not surface "goodie-goodie" type - for others. When you truly have concern about others, you don't put your own fears first. You talk, you explain, and you consider options. You do not make people suffer because of your problems and insecurities. Sure, she had pressures about the big wedding. In the scope of problems faced in this world, is that an excuse for what she did? Poor child, the world was revolving around her and she could not cope? What would she have done with a real tragedy in her life? The type that she caused her family.

However, the bottom line is: You just do not lie. Obviousily the basis of all of this is a lie - her feelings were not true, her heart was not in this marriage. No one who loves deeply can hurt others in this way. I don't think it was/is sickness, just an inability to be truthful. That is the root of all evil or selfish actions, IMHO