I got that lecture once, when I was 15 and my family became, well, sort of in the news. I did just what Mother said and it was a good thing. Southerners don't turn on family no matter what they do. We hold on tight, defend them to the death and hold our heads high.
I haven't thought of this in so many years, it seems to be bred in the bones. Her Mother is now giving lectures to everyone in the bridal party and his Mother is having his Dad give him lectures.
Fox anchor is now really questioning NM Public Info Officer on why they are not charging her.
My grandmother always said a lady's name should only appear in print three times, when she's born, weds and dies. My mother used to tease her by calling it "hatched, matched and dispatched". My grandmother never even appeared in print for the charity work she did and was upset because my mother appeared in the paper for hers all the time.
I alweays think of my grandmother when my name is in the paper for Women's Club, UDC or DAR events.