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The Side Effects of Witnessing Murder (Terri Schindler Schiavo) (by Cheryl Ford RN)
OpinionEditorials ^ | April 21, 2005 | Cheryl Ford, RN

Posted on 04/20/2005 11:25:41 PM PDT by FairOpinion

Three weeks will soon have passed since Terri Schindler-Schiavo was forced to die an inhumane and tragic death. Thousands who were against Terri's killing claim they find themselves awake at all hours of the night trying to come to terms with what happened to Terri. Many state they are suffering from overwhelming depression, frustration, and feelings of powerlessness. Others find themselves struggling to understand how America stood by and allowed Terri to be publicly murdered and not receive judicial or police protection.

Only a few short weeks ago, we witnessed thousands upon thousands of people from all over the world rise in protest to the heinous crime involving the murder of Terri Schindler-Schiavo. During the long 14 day period, as Terri laid suffering from starvation and dehydration, members of the US Congress gathered in a weekend forum to vote on a bipartisan bill that would assure Terri's constitutional rights. The bill was aimed at saving her life. The President of the United States who was preparing for Easter with his family, was urgently flown from his vacation ranch home in Texas to the White House to sign a bill that was passed in a 203 to 58 vote. So, why now are we faced with feeling the unsettling side effects of Terri's murder? Why do many seek answers to questions such as: How does a nation justify, publicly watching the death of an innocent disabled woman while no one was capable of stopping her murder?

When trying to find any sense of understanding or acceptance regarding Terri's murder, we must discuss some aspects surrounding the topics of death. Death, as we all know, is defined as: "A permanent cessation of all vital functions." Due to its permanency, we find death very disturbing under any circumstance. Death creates a destabilization of our existence, knowing there is no turning back. Normally, we experience death when it results from illness, unexpected trauma, or old-age. We are seldom, if ever, confronted with the unique emotions associated with murder happening in our family. When we hear about a murder we usually find ourselves gasping at the crime as it makes headline news. The loss of human life is final and emotionally traumatizing on any society. Any way we wish to view it, the intentional infliction of death on a human being, will always be defined as murder. Our country bases its philosophy on the value of "preservation of all life," thus, creating its laws to say, under no circumstances should anyone take the life of an innocent human being. We ask then, why was Terri allowed to be murdered as the world stood by and watched?

Once we are subjected to loss of life, we naturally emerge into what is known as the grieving process. Grief as we know it, has limitless boundaries. Often when we are forced to grieve, we flail aimlessly and timelessly into what appears to be an open abyss. Dr. Elisabeth Kubler Ross describes in her book "Death and Dying," the 5 stages of grief as: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance. In order to move through the grieving process, we must at some point encounter the 5 stages of grief. Many will vacillate between the phases of grief for an undetermined period of time.

We also know there are thousands of people who routinely struggle with the controversial issues surrounding the death penalty. It is not unusual, or unreasonable for people to find difficulty digesting the legal liberties that are given to man when they are authorized to inflict the finalities of death upon any human being. Be the death penalty right or wrong, those who struggle with it can often find some sense of rationale and acceptance in knowing that those on death row were convicted and tried for a crime which brought forth their death sentence. However, what happens to the thousands who are reaching for that same sense of understanding and acceptance when grieving for Terri's publicly inhumane murder? Terri, was not a criminal and never hurt anyone. She was not tried, or convicted of any crime. She was not terminally ill, or unhealthy. She was not taken off to the hidden ominous fields where victims are murdered by their unknown killers. Despite all, we had a nation that was forced to watched Terri's tragic and unnecessary death, making it difficult, if not impossible, to transition into the grieving phases of acceptance.

We recognize that Terri was not any more special to her parents, than any other child is to their parents who love them. It is a given that she will be just as missed by her family, as others tend to miss their family members when they die. However, once again, as we seek some rationalization and acceptance in dealing with Terri's death, like we do in the normal grieving process of others, we find ourselves reaching an emotionally unsettling and angry set of emotions to deal with. Perhaps,it is due to the disturbing visions of a Mother publicly pleading for the life of her daughter; a daughter who would not be dead if it weren't for an estranged spouse who intentionally starved and dehydrated her, to her death. These visions leave the sane population very distraught. We again find ourselves asking, how do we move into the acceptance phase of grief after watching an innocent member of our society be murdered and denied the right to receive help? We knew, and will remember Terri as the innocent woman who through her means of natural communications waited patiently each day for her loving and very dedicated family to visit her so she could smile and laugh with them. We knew how her biological family had struggled for years to be capable of providing her with the therapy and help that we all naturally reach for when we are hurting, or injured. We shall always recall the look of love and warmth on the faces of Terri and her Mother as they embraced each other. Was the love and unity of the Schindler family so wrong a bond that we had to remove one of its members?

For Terri, sadly, the help that we normally would have expected to come her way, never did arrive. Where does this leave the thousands of civilized people who are now in shock, remembering the agonizing expressions on Mary's face as she pleaded for someone, anyone, to help rescue her daughter? How do we as a nation cope with Terri's unnecessary and brutal murder; a murder that we not only heard about over and over again though out every media source, but were also forced to watch as it appeared on national television for 14 long days? How do we justify the murder of a woman who was healthy and did not have to die, yet, we did nothing to stop it? When did America begin denying a family the right to care for one of its members? Who will be next?

I personally refuse to accept the notion that we have become a barbaric society living amongst many others like George Felos, Michael Schiavo, George Greer, and Deborah Bushnell. The four people who comfortably watched Terri slowly have the life sucked out of her, and then later rationalized Terri's death as merciful. Terri's death cannot be defined as anything but cold, callous, inhumane, unnecessary, wrong, and against all the laws that our country was founded upon. Laws that still read, MURDER is illegal! Assuming the majority of our world still believes murder is wrong, we must ask ourselves what can we do to prevent Terri's situation from happening to another individual? How can we seek justice for Terri and see to it that the four people who are responsible for the 14 days of her inhumane killing are brought to legal justice? We must also ask ourselves, is it more reasonable to suggest that the thousands who supported Terri, who were appalled and against her death, the emotionally unstable religious zealots that George Felos suggested they were? Or, is it more reasonable to say that rather it was Terri's estranged spouse, his euthanasia attorneys, and the judge in Pinellas County, who are the emotionally unstable death zealots who need to be convicted for their criminal actions?

More importantly, as a civilized society, we must question, are we going to challenge the inhumane laws that killed Terri, or, are we willing to allow her death to be in vain and chalk it up to becoming the new season preview for Reality Guardianship Murders? I do believe that it is vitally important for every person who grieves Terri's tragic death to have these questions answered, all in an effort to enter into the Acceptance phase of grief.


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Editorial; Extended News
KEYWORDS: cherylford; schiavo; schindler; terri; terrischiavo
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To: jude24

How's this for "rule of law"?
1. She was awarded 1.4 million dollars by a jury for treatment and therapy. Court records indicate NONE of those funds were expended to that purpose. Court records indicate $350,000 of those funds were expended to litigate her death.

2. She was sentenced to death without representation. The closest representation was the guardians ad litem, both of whose recommendations for further investigation of her wishes were dismissed by the court.

3. She was placed in a hospice for five years without a terminal illness. Hospice laws, policies and procedures require a terminal diagnosis and short life expectancy prognosis. A hospice is equipped to assist the dying. It is not equipped or purposed to provide for the living – the disabled living.

4. Terri Schiavo was declared indigent at some point during that time. Taxpayers funded her stay at a facility not purposed to her needs.





161 posted on 04/22/2005 9:35:29 AM PDT by a5478 (a5478)
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To: jude24

Whatever.


162 posted on 04/22/2005 11:49:25 AM PDT by beckysueb (God bless America and President Bush.)
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To: FairOpinion

Thanks for posting this thought-provoking and well written article.


163 posted on 04/22/2005 11:52:01 AM PDT by hedgetrimmer
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To: freepertoo; jude24

Freepertoo - check out his home page - he's a future lawyer - explains a lot!


164 posted on 04/22/2005 4:00:33 PM PDT by PatriotGirl827 (Would you rather be O.J.'s girlfriend or Michael Schiavo's fiancee? - Ann Coulter)
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To: jude24

Nor can a tomato smile at her mother.


165 posted on 04/22/2005 4:03:51 PM PDT by Saundra Duffy ( Theresa Marie SCHINDLER - We will NEVER FORGET! - IMPEACH JUDGE GREER!!!)
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To: FairOpinion

Last week at the International Mall in Tampa they were shopping till they
dropped and no one seemed to be thinking of Terri!

I felt like I was in a segment of the Twilight Zone!

"Don't you people even care??????????"


166 posted on 04/22/2005 7:03:24 PM PDT by Lesforlife ("For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb . . ." Psalm 139:13)
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To: a5478

I think I recall that the beneficent Woodside Hospice dontated Terri's medical care the last months!

Isn't that heartwarming?

Too bad she was locked in her room and never was allowed to enjoy
the facility's gorgeous park like grounds!

Pray for justice to be served upon Terri's tormentors!!


167 posted on 04/22/2005 7:07:52 PM PDT by Lesforlife ("For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb . . ." Psalm 139:13)
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To: jude24

"I have a professional interest in the rule of law."

I presume you mean Felos' and Greer's personal versions, NOT the Constitution, nor the law observed by Judges like Judge Wilson, in his dissenting opinion.

http://www.ca11.uscourts.gov/opinions/ops/200511556.pdf

You are merely dressing up your desire to kill all defenseless disabled people in the veneer of the rule of law.


168 posted on 04/22/2005 7:18:49 PM PDT by FairOpinion
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To: jude24

"(Ignorance should be painful.) "

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Careful what you wish for...


169 posted on 04/22/2005 7:21:43 PM PDT by FairOpinion
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To: jude24

Here’s where Terri Schiavo Insurance money went:

These funds, the result of a malpractice suit, were meant solely to provide for Terri Schiavo’s care and rehabilitation.



Atty. Gwyneth Stanley - $10,668.05
Atty. Deborah Bushnell - $65,607.00
Atty. Steve Nilson - $7,404.95
Atty. Pacarek - $1,500.00
Atty. Richard Pearse (GAL) - $4,511.95
Atty. George Felos - $397,249.99
1st Union/South Trust Bank – $55,459.85
Michael Schiavo - $10,929.95
Total: $545,852.34

(I daresay all of the above also had a professional interest in the rule of law.)


170 posted on 04/22/2005 8:41:34 PM PDT by Fred Nerks (Proud to be an Aussie.)
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To: Saundra Duffy

I also will never forget.

WHERE IS THAT AUTOPSY REPORT???!!!


171 posted on 04/25/2005 3:13:31 PM PDT by freepertoo
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To: FairOpinion; floriduh voter; Ohioan from Florida

wow. bingo.

and what you said in # 52, fv. Terri should not have been killed, it was allowed and we are all diminished for it. Even those who mock.

"And so it begins . . ."


172 posted on 04/25/2005 4:38:59 PM PDT by cyn (it's sarcasm, but jim king really said it.)
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To: cyn; russesjunjee
IN CASE YOU HAVEN'T READ THIS YET... Statement of the Schindler Family on the Passing of Terri Schindler Schiavo

To: National Desk

PINELLAS PARK, Fl., March 31 /Christian Wire Service/ -- The following is the text of the statement read by Terri Schindler Schiavo's sister, Suzanne Vitadamo; and brother, Bobby Schindler, in front of the Woodside Hospice, in Pinellas Park, Florida, at a 4:30 PM, press conference.

As you are aware, Terri is now with God and she has been released from all earthly burdens. After these recent years of neglect at the hands of those who were supposed to protect and care for her, she is finally at peace with God for eternity. We are speaking on behalf of our entire family this evening as we share some thoughts and messages to the world regarding our sister and the courageous battle that was waged to save her life from starvation and dehydration.

We have a message for the volunteers that have helped our family:

Thank you for all that you've done for our family. Thank you to the hundreds of doctors who volunteered to help Terri. Thank you to the fifty doctors who provided statements under oath to help Terri. Thank you to the lawyers who stood for Terri's life in the courtrooms of our nation. From running our family's website, to driving us around, to making meals, to serving in so many ways—thank you to all of the volunteers who have been so kind to our family through all of this.

We have a message for the supporters and people praying worldwide:

Please continue to pray that God gives grace to our family as we go through this very difficult time. We know that many of you never had the privilege to personally know our wonderful sister, Terri, but we assure you that you can be proud of this remarkable woman who has captured the attention of the world. Following the example of the Lord Jesus, our family abhors any violence or any threats of violence. Threatening words dishonor our faith, our family, and our sister, Terri. We would ask that all those who support our family be completely kind in their words and deeds toward others.

We have a message to the media:

We appreciate your taking Terri's case to the nation. Please afford our family privacy to grieve at this time. The patience and graciousness of the on-site media here at hospice has been deeply appreciated by our family.

*********We have a message to the many government officials who tried to help Terri:

Thank you for all that you've done. Our family will be forever grateful to all of the outstanding public servants who have tried to save Terri.

We have a message to all of the religious leaders who tried to help Terri:

Thank you to all people of faith who demonstrated love for Terri and strength of conviction to defend the sacredness of all human life as a precious gift from God. Our family is highly honored that the Holy Father, Pope John Paul II, would speak out so boldly on behalf of our sister, Terri.

We have a message of forgiveness:

Throughout this ordeal, we are reminded of the words of Jesus on the cross: "Father forgive them for they know not what they do." Our family seeks forgiveness for anything that we have done in standing for Terri's life that has not demonstrated the love and compassion required of us by our faith.

We have a message to parents worldwide:

Our family would encourage parents to spend time with their children and to cherish each and every moment of each and every day with them as a precious gift from God.

We have a message to Terri from her family:

As a member of our family unable to speak for yourself, you spoke loudly. As a member of our family unable to stand under your own power, you stood with a grace and a dignity that made your family proud. Terri, we love you dearly, but we know that God loves you more than we do. We must accept your untimely death as God's will.

Terri, your life and legacy will continue to live on, as the nation is now awakened to the plight of thousands of voiceless people with disabilities that were previously unnoticed. Your family intends to stand up for the other "Terri's" around this nation and we will do all that we can to change the law so others won't face the same fate that has befallen you.

We have a final thought to share:

Our family had hoped this day would never come, but as it has now arrived, we ask ourselves a question in these incredibly sad circumstances: What would the Lord Jesus ask us to do in a moment like this? In John's Gospel, Jesus responded to the questions of the rabbis, who asked why a man had been born blind. He said: "it is so that the works of God might be made manifest through him."

God's plan for Terri is unfolding before our eyes. Our prayer at this time is that our Nation will remember the plight of persons with disabilities and commit within our hearts to defend their lives and their dignity for many generations to come.

173 posted on 04/25/2005 4:43:15 PM PDT by floriduh voter ( Demand the Investigation of Judge Greer. Call Your US Senate & House Members)
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To: ClancyJ

The nine GOP Senators are confirmed with photos on that thread you were on earlier.


174 posted on 04/25/2005 4:44:24 PM PDT by floriduh voter ( Demand the Investigation of Judge Greer. Call Your US Senate & House Members)
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To: amdgmary

175 posted on 04/25/2005 4:55:13 PM PDT by floriduh voter ( Demand the Investigation of Judge Greer. Call Your US Senate & House Members)
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To: floriduh voter

bump that, the only consolation.


176 posted on 04/25/2005 5:05:30 PM PDT by cyn (it's sarcasm, but jim king really said it.)
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To: a5478

Many thanks for you excellent post.
This is not for your letter but I thought I would share it with you.

When working to save Mrs. Mae Magouirk a supposed close neighbor was writing in how nice the grand daughter was etc. etc. A poster reponded "Are you confusing hospice with Hospitality Suite?" It was a pretty good line, overall it was a pretty good post. Just thaought that was a good line.


177 posted on 04/25/2005 5:11:00 PM PDT by ExPatInFrance (Terri's Starfish- 1 Mrs. Ora Mae Magouirk, 2 Clara Martinez)
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To: jude24

The government, via the courts, was already involved. Removal of food and water is murder. This is NOT hi-tech.


178 posted on 04/25/2005 5:11:48 PM PDT by DLfromthedesert (Texas Cowboy...you da man!!)
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To: MHGinTN

Usually, I don't bait the Death Mongers, I think it just encourages them.

But I msut say once in a while it is good that somebody takes a good hard swing at them. You have been landing some punches (verbally) and good for you. Im not up to it, so I will gladly watch from the sidelines. Good For YOU!


179 posted on 04/25/2005 5:24:52 PM PDT by ExPatInFrance (Terri's Starfish- 1 Mrs. Ora Mae Magouirk, 2 Clara Martinez)
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To: ExPatInFrance

Wel (blush), thank you. I have grown less tolerant over the past several years due to the brickwallesque approach of those with agendas. Human LIFE is either precious or it is to used for utilitarian purposes to aid the stronger and more powerful. I attain to the former and believe an Evil force is behind the latter paradigm, to reduce humanity to nothing more than a somewhat smarter animal than other species. I've even gone so far as to articulate a new paradigm but I seldom make reference to the theory because of the old addage about 'pearls and swine' ... not that my different paradigm is more worthy than other ones, but I find it fits better when contemplating right and wrong, Evil and Godliness. It also makes for interesting implications in physics (as in a different G.U.T. for contemplation).


180 posted on 04/25/2005 6:43:50 PM PDT by MHGinTN (If you can read this, you've had life support from someone. Promote life support for others.)
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