From watching O'Neill one can easily see that he is a southern gentleman who would never support actions so crude and pointless. It takes only a little acuity to make such a determination.
I agree wholeheartedly that he most certainly is a gentleman. Hard to imagine what he'd do if he met her personally. I didn't think you had the right to assume what he would or wouldn't do. I dare guess, neither of us knows John O'Neill personally.
You may be correct that he wouldn't spit.
(That's not to say that most VN wets wouldn't though, if they had the chance and I'd stand in applause!