My son who died was Mike...Mike was 15 when he died...Andy, my younger son, was 11 when his big brother died...
I was also so hurtful for Andy...he loved and idolized his big brother, and it really was hard for him to go on without him...it was a real struggle for me to be a good mom to Andy, when I was so grief stricken over Mikes death...but somehow we all got through it together...
Today, Andy is almost 31...and he lives life to the fullest, sometimes going to extremes...he travels all over the world(not as a regular tourist, but rather as a backpacker and observer of life on the road)...he participates in many 'activities, such as bungee jumping, snowboarding, skiing, deep sea diving, hiking up to the Everest Base Camp, jet skiing, glacier climbing, just to mention a few...and oh yes, he enjoys a myriad of ladies...he regrets that he always has to return to the working world, in order to finance his next trip...but also realizes that his job, is what allows him to do as he wishes...
I sometimes believe that Andy is living life large, because he has seen firsthand, ,how fragile life is, and he lives life double, once for himself, and once for his dead brother...
Hes a good son to me and the hubby, and he always realizes how hard it was to lose Mike...
Thanks for your comments...now you have got me tearing up(but at this point in my life, it is a good cry, as I realize I lost Mike, but I had him for 15 wonderful years and for that I am grateful)
Peace be with you, Lady. Andy has a wonderful Mom.
Andyandmikesmom, thank you for sharing with us, through pnsn, what you wrote. Know that you have many here holding you in our prayers. Andy sounds like a fine young man, of which you and your loving husband I'm sure are so very proud. And your Mike is always with all of you. The Lord will always help you and your family in carrying your daily, heavy burden. Fall into his hands--I'm sure you do. And take care of yourself, good mother, andyandmikesmom.
Andy is active. His activities scare me! LOL
He's doing so much it covers himself, Mike and me! My activity is walking. lol Very very few people do what they enjoy. Good for him.
As parents, I feel w/just life's struggles take our attention away and we feel we aren't doing the best. But no struggle can ever ever compare to losing a child.
Life is so fragile and unpredictable. Mike's in your heart being cherish daily. You are a good mom! Tell Andy I said - have some fun for me! Something more my style - like a walk on a beach. lol