Posted on 04/14/2005 6:46:56 AM PDT by CarrotAndStick
You should put our kid into the hands of the villagers (government), not the family? I don't beleive this.
How about mom stays home & raise the kids. You'd just have to give up the Denali and big pool. It works for me.
Yes. But the 'feminists' won't agree wiht you now, would they?
I find it difficult to believe that leaving a child with their grandmother or aunt is more harmful to them than leaving them with a complete stranger.
>>In fact your child is likely to appreciate and understand your actions better and be proud of your achievements.<<
Fulltime, Homeschooling Mom. I guess we are dirt.
ii. The child will be less adept with language.
iii. Their reading and word recognition are less advanced.
This is garbage. Three months behind is a "significant detriment" ? What is their criteria for determining what "the average" should be ?
Let's see a longer-term perspective. Research on Head Start has found that kids raised by parents/relatives and those enrolled in Head-Start have NO SIGNIFICANT DIFFERENCES by 3rd grade.
I strongly suspect this "study" did not control for parental income.
Parents (or more likely, single mothers) who leave their offspring with grandparents or other relatives are often not able to afford a "paid caregiver."
Those mothers, as a statistical group, tend to have many other parental pathologies that could account for their childrens' lagging development.
So the conclusion that somehow having a "paid caregiver" is good for a child is entirely unwarranted.
hmmmmmmmmmmm
Oops. I meant 'yes' for the second part of your reply concerning 'stay-at-home' moms rearing their kids. The best possible way it is.
You betcha. And there's no place better to plant a seed and watch it grow.
I see this empirically around me. I think the problem is that grandparents naturally want to spoil the grandkids. And you just can't be a "grandparent" and a caregiver, too. You just have to set too many limits. Perhaps there is a "been-there-done-that" fatigue, too.
That said, many, many grandparents step into bad situations and provide some badly needed structure for troubled kids. The ones I'm thinking about are kids in stable situations but with two working parents whose grandparents are the full-time, or mostly full-time caregivers. This is also not the same as picking up the kids occasionally after school.
No no - it's the eyes in the back of your head that matter. ;)
Nail.
Head.
BANG!
Hmmmm, that's strange, a feminist disagree with me? That's never happened before! < /strong sarcasm>
Some people need to perpetuate their jobs.
My daughter didn't speak English until 2 1/2. She spoke "twinspeak". I watched another girl, her age and they had a language all their own. I would actually ask the other girl what my daughter said. (the other girl was a middle child and was "bilingual"). When her mom had another baby and so did I, I stopped watching the other girl and we moved. Suddenly, although all the experts told me that there was something wrong with her, she began to speak with us!
Now she is 7 and doing 4th grade schoolwork. Go Figure!
>>Fulltime, Homeschooling Mom. I guess we are dirt.
You betcha. And there's no place better to plant a seed and watch it grow.<<
WOW!!! That's the best! Thanks!
I'd really like to see just how these kids were evaluated and for what. I'd also like to know the backgrounds of the children studied. Complete strangers may well take better care of kids whose own relatives are illiterate drug abusers.
Eventually, women will be required to decant the contents of their uteri into state-controlled infant farms. Hello, Brave New World.
Correlation is not causation.
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