Re: "Like rape when there's nothing you can do about it you might as well lie back and enjoy it."
That is sick! Would you tell your mom or your wife to do that?!!
How chivalrous! (qualities such as bravery, courtesy, honor, and gallantry toward women.)
Or is is callous? (Emotionally hardened; unfeeling: a callous indifference to the suffering of others.)
Sorry, it was bitter sarcasm.