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Define deep.

To an engineer, discussing the impossible complexities of the pyramids is fun. Discussing the physics of icebreaking is fun. Discussing something historical is fun. Discussing certain novels or plays is fun.

This guy's point is that a woman's idea of deep and a man's idea of deep are often in diametrical opposition. I know women who can't tell you who is VP of the US, but claim that some of the men in their lives are like children.

What this guy is saying is absolutely true. I've been married to an incredibly intelligent woman for 15 years. She teaches calculus, but she won't talk about it much unless we go to symposia together - it's the only place I can actually get my geek on and not embarrass myself in front of her - because for once she has her geek on.

I attracted her and married her for all kinds of good emotional reasons. The only 'deep' conversations I've ever had with her dealt with emotional issues and math (she's a math teacher) and once you go beyond a certain area of math in which she's familiar the conversation stops.

It's strange how I've arrived at this, but by and large, trying to have a conversation about anything technical, scientific, literary, or historical with a woman will do you as much good as having the same conversation with your pet airedale.

I take that back - the airedale will forgive you for making her feel so inadequate and love you anyway.

Actually, what you say tends to apply to BOTH men and women.Non-technical minded men, in particular younger ones, do NOT seem to relish discussions on serious matters, rather, they want to discuss sports, partying, sex, and other such things I have experienced this with my own eyes.

For example, One time, in my radio club, A couple of us began to discuss some serious physical science matters, and the talk ventured into string theories, something which I still lack much knowledge on, but am eager to learn more about.

The next day, at my job, another male employee and me were talking, about world affairs, or something like it. Anyhoo, I then mentioned that we had been discussing string theory the night before, to this employee. I was starting to explain the general definition of string theory,(the litle that I understand) and he stopped me, and just started making fun of me, and, for most of the day, maybe even week, talked very simply toward me.

SO-- I have come to the conclusion that most people, not just women, do NOT like to discuss serious, in-depth subjects. People tend to make fun of things they do not understand, and shun those who talk of things that they do not understand.Therefore, a date would be the LAST place, one would want to discuss such things.while one might talk of some current events, and such, it is important to make a date feel comfortable with you, NOT dazzle them, with your super intellect(or pretense thereof, as I know a man, who can TALK like he is very knowledgeable, about many things, but is unable to do much more than TALK... and do drugs, too).