Yes, exactly. Nice guys fool themselves into thinking that women will be sexually thrilled by a sexually dull guy. Astonishing.
As far as TNG goes, I am more of a Babylon 5 man, myself! Though Data was always my fave TNG character!
It's only when single men begin showing up at Star Trek conventions dressed as a Klingon that there's a real need for concern. At that point, it may be necessary for family members/friends to call for an intervention and/or psychiatric services.