I'm on your side regarding Terri, but my husband is Catholic and so were his parents and he and his brothers had their Mom and Dad cremated after their funeral masses with the approval of their priest. They wanted to have their ashes mixed together and sprinkled into the ocean. A priest who was a family friend accompanied us when it was done.
Re #190. I guess I'm behind the times and didn't realize so many catholics were doing it. I hope I didn't strike a sensibility in your situation.