So we will let strangers/govt decide the fate of loved ones?
Why yes! They can make them wards of the court which orders them starved!
By 'decide the fate of' you mean, 'protect the lives of', right?
Yes, the gov't protects the lives of people. Or, is supposed to anyway. You have read the Declaration of Independence, have you not? Why do you think governments are formed among men, anyway?