Your answer is, our finite minds cannot comprehend the exact relationship between God and His Son Jesus. That is why we are exhorted to have faith. Faith is what sets a true Christian apart from an person who merely believes Jesus was a man who walked the earth two thousand years ago. If you do not have faith in the words of the Bible (including all the numerous clear references to God as being "male"), then you have some soul-searching to do.
May God bless you in that endeavor.
Thank you for your kind words.