I don't know anything about the author or her motivations in writing this piece - she may be just as cajungirl has described her. But as a general rule, any woman who doesn't put her husband ahead of her children (and vice versa) is 99% guaranteed to end up divorced and bitter at forty.
Florence King wrote a great column in National Review about ten years ago on this subject of "child worship" and how it has taken over in America and poisoned many formerly loving relationships. She had the dialogue of the offenders down pat too: "I'd do anything for those kids, you hear me? Anything!" The kids are going to move away and do all sorts of things you don't approve of - if you are too invested in them, that will crush you. My own mother was like this, and never recovered psychologically when my brother moved to England to attend graduate school, at the age of 26.
Trying to smother and live every second of their childrens' lives for them (which seems to be the norm in Soccer Mom-land these days) leads to intense resentment - happy parents who stay a little more interested in building their own lives together than they are in orchestrating their childrens' every move will produce well-adjusted adults in the long run. I think a hundred years ago this principle was common knowledge, but in this as in so many other social norms America has gotten way off track.
That's what I was trying to say, but she said it better. Guess that's why Florence King gets paid for her writing, and I don't. :D
Dead on.