Posted on 03/30/2005 8:13:49 PM PST by paulat
Children are disowned all the time. That's neither here nor there.
The point is that the introduction of children into a family should not change the behavior between the husband and the wife.
It should not. But it all too often does. And it is usually the woman who changes. The first thing to go is the sex. That's what the writer of this article talks about in the first paragraph, the way most women change.
But not all women experience this change. It's taboo to talk about, just like it's taboo to say you don't want children at all. Those threads always draw animosity on Free Republic. People who don't want kids are called selfish.
I can relate to this woman because the thought of losing my husband in death is the scariest thing I can imagine. That kind of connection, that "best friend" doesn't come along often. The thought of losing him through divorce is unimaginable. He'd have to become someone other than the person he was at the start, and that's certainly possible, but it won't happen because I put the children before him.
I don't see how this woman is a bad or inferior mother because she raves more about the man she chose and connected with. It's okay for men to admit that when their children are young, they don't go ga-ga crazy. Well some women are the same way, doesn't mean they don't love their kids.
Another Andrea Yates in the making.
I bet if she had 4 husbands and one child she would love the child more.
If she had four husbands and one child, she'd probably die with a smile on her face.
A sense of humor [especially about former spousen] , and wisdom, too.
How VERY uncommon.
Excellent piece. I think she's right.
LOL! I think I love you!
Just checked out your profile page...you seem to have a very good sense of humor too! :)
Hon,
There have been times in my life where humor was the only alternative to going batshit crazy.
I ain't updated that thing in a coupla years.
Go to the Links.
It's called the PRIORITIES in life, GOD first, then your spouse, then your family.
I believe you are describing the natural history of motherhood. When they are babies, the maternal love is overwhelming, all-encompassing. Which is as it should be when they need you 24/7. As they grow, the maternal bonds naturally loosen, as they should. The focus returns to the husband. I am grateful that my husband understood this and was patient when I was occupied with babies. Now that the children are mostly grown, the focus has returned to him.
That's why workshops were invented.
: ^ )
What is it with New York City women that they have to obsess about their sex lives, either for good or ill?
Thank you for your post. I am single, 28 yrs old. The product of divorced parents (I was 2 at the time). I gotta tell you, I long for this type of relationship. I don't see anything wrong with this article. Children grow up and leave. Your spouse is forever. A buddy once told me "Don't marry someone you can live with. Marry someone you can't live without.
At 37 years old...I am going to own my first gun in less than a month. I go next weekend for the CCW class, and then I will decide what caliber of weapon I want.
I may have to look through some of those threads and see if I can pick up any important info that will be useful to me! I need something that will not only stop a person in their tracks, but will drop them like a lead weight at close range! Any ideas?
Well, a .45 will drop pretty much anyone. A .40 will also do the job. A 9mm is smaller but is usually enough for stopping power. Anything smaller than that (.380, .25, .22) might be too small. Then there are the .38's and the .357's. It depends on where you live too. Is it highly populated? Factors like that do make a difference. Also how much you shoot. The bigger the gun, the more expensive the ammo. Hollow points are for carrying and they are expensive. Practice rounds are cheaper and also less powerful b/c they have less grains.
You have freepmail!
My wife and I used to talk during sex to increase communication. I would say, "Are you awake." and she would reply, "zzzzzzz."
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