My mother in her final stages of cancer was given morphine orally under the tounge. The doctor said it was to help with her pain and make her comfortable. She said goodbye to all of us, went to sleep and died that night.
That was 9 years ago today.
I am so sorry. Today must be a particularly hard day for you. I have lost both parents. They live on in my heart as your mother does in yours. And in quiet moments you will remember. You will teach and love and cherish with all she taught you to be.
Sorry for your loss.
That's what they said to me when my mother died.
She was 82. The last 2 years she had congestive heart failure and was homebound. I took care of her, but she was just hoping she would go, and die in her sleep.
At the end, when I had to bring her to the hospital, I signed a DNR at her request and the doctor's suggestion. She was there for 4 days.
Well, the DNR paperwork didn't get to the floor/nurse's station, so when she had a massive heart attack 4 days later, they resuscitated her, against her wishes.
It happened at 4AM, but the doctor didn't call me until 8AM. My brother, who is a doctor, but lives out of state, told me to go right to the hospital and have them remove the tube.
It took about 5 hours, because a pulmonary doctor had to be called in.
Anyway, I asked the doctor if my mother was going to be in pain or gasping for breath when they pulled the tube and he said "no, we'll give her morphine."