It's not a beef and I didn't mean to sound snappish. I was trying to answer a gazillion pings before going out for the afternoon.
What has surprised me is that people did not know that this happens every day in nursing homes and hospitals across the nation. My stepdaughter works in a nursing home. We've did this with my husband's aunt on doctors recommendations.
I'm not saying whether it's right or wrong, painful or not. But freepers who have sat by their parents bedside after the feeding tube was removed and spent as much time with them as they could in their final days say it was peaceful.