That's true. You and I agree on a lot of things, but this story is one that just strikes me as odd.
My husband is unusually close to his family. They are very, very tight-knit. If they wanted to take care of him and I didn't (a scenario I can't imagine, but for the sake of discussion), I just can't see standing in their way, unless I knew he was absolutely adamant (and I'm talking more than just a "he said this one time over nachos" kind of a thing) about wanting to die if he was on life support of some kind.
Well, I know my husband is adamant. He has told me over and over. In fact, he's told me just to give him a bottle of vodka and a gun! I am clear as to what his wishes are and would never allow someone, even if they're well-meaning, to subvert those wishes.