[BigSkyFreeper]

have him prepare a living will and there will be no fights. it is the prudent thing to do. it should NEVER come down to undocumented hearsay if there is a dispute.

That's the larger lesson learned from this. It will certainly avoid the fighting and bickering between family members.

[xsmommy]

indeed, and everyone should do it, it is an intensely personal thing that has everyone's emotions white-hot. i see so much of the emotion here stemming from people's own personal experiences or situations.