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I have to leave the house but will check in later.

I've told my husband AND my friends that when I'm gone, he's to wait six months and then there's an upscale place where middle aged and older folks go to listen to music and eat and it's a great meeting place. And we're older people.

There is no way I'd want a young husband to sit by my bedside for years. I wouldn't want to know about his "other" life and I wouldn't want him to ignore me, but I'd want my husband's life to go on as best he could manage it under these circumstances.

Well here's an interesting bit of FL law I just came across...

765.1115 Falsification, forgery, or willful concealment, cancellation, or destruction of directive or revocation or amendment; penalties.--

(1) Any person who willfully conceals, cancels, defaces, obliterates, or damages an advance directive without the principal's consent or who falsifies or forges the revocation or amendment of an advance directive of another, and who thereby causes life-prolonging procedures to be utilized in contravention of the previously expressed intent of the principal, commits a felony of the third degree, punishable as provided in s. 775.082, s. 775.083, or s. 775.084.

(2) Any person who falsifies or forges the advance directive of another or who willfully conceals or withholds personal knowledge of the revocation of an advance directive, with the intent to cause a withholding or withdrawal of life-prolonging procedures contrary to the wishes of the principal, and who thereby because of such act directly causes life-prolonging procedures to be withheld or withdrawn and death to be hastened, commits a felony of the second degree, punishable as provided in s. 775.082, s. 775.083, or s. 775.084.

We all would want our spouse's life to go on. But think about it, what if he would not let your poor body go in the sunlight? What if he wouldn't let your teeth be brushed? What if he kept your parents away and denied even testing to see if there could be improvement.

Wouldn't you rather your husband walk away and let your parents care for you if they were wanting do, indeed living to do that?

This husband is not my husband or yours. He iscertainly not hers.

Let's look at this objectively.

1. If Terry is in a persistant vegetative state with no awareness, then she isn't suffering. Killing her only is a convenience for those left behind. If she made that statement (doubtful) thinking of Michael, transferring care to her parents saves him from any responsibility. So, why not do it?

2. If she is NOT in a PVS, then why should she be killed?

It's very simple. If she is in a PVS, give care to her parents. If she is NOT in a PVS, require the husband to start tests and therapy, OR transfer guardianship to someone who will.

There is no way I'd want a young husband to sit by my bedside for years. I wouldn't want to know about his "other" life and I wouldn't want him to ignore me, but I'd want my husband's life to go on as best he could manage it under these circumstances.

That's commendable. But let's say you're incapacitated. Would you want your husband to do what Michael Shciavo has done - father children with another woman, while remaining married to you? If you don't think that would be disrespectful to you - what about to those children, who would be considered illegitimate, and couldn't take their father's name, because he remained married to you?

Michael Schiavo is abusing these children that he has fathered - because by remaining married to Terri, he's can't be their "father" in the strictest legal sense.