"Are there any young women out there who would expect their husbands to sit by their bedside wiping their drool and cleaning their ass for 30 years?"
And I suppose we should move on with our lives after the birth of a severely disabled child too....... My husband and I have wiped drool and changed diapers for 18 years.. x2. But we were young when we had kids so we can dump the kids and move on, now?
You either commit or give guardianship to someone who will....
Let us also not forget that when you have extended families you end up taking care of your parents that way. It is the ways of life.