The grass is definitely greener on your side of the fence and even though it makes me a little bit jealous of another's good fortune, it's a beautiful thing to hear you talk about it. Before I die I hope and pray that I get to experience it for myself. Clearly your husband married well and may you never take each other for granted! (Not that it's likely you will)
We are pretty old and have been tending the "grass" for a long time. Marriage is not easy but I don't know anything better. Sometimes I see it as our being two stones in one of those machines that polishes stone,,you know what I mean. It is like my edges hit his and after a while, the edges are just smoother. I think I see marriage as a long term partnership in all things and alot of habits that grow up. You have alot of choice about the habits and I thinkk that makes the difference. To start out lying to one another, well that is insurmountable.
Stick with it,you will find yours!