It's rarely as painful for the woman as it is for the man. On top of the pain of the actual divorce, the man will most likely lose the kids, get kicked out of his own house and be forced to pay money to the hateful harpy who ruined his life.
In a situation like that, the best thing for a man to do is change his name and move to some island in the Carribean.
I know it's hard on men. I know that. But hateful harpies don't just end up in the lives of innocent men who don't invite them there. And I know from watching friends, that bad marriages are almost always bad for both sides. Women don't enter marriage just to screw men for money. People enter marriage, some are good at getting along, some are good at being married, and some are not. Some men marry women that have a 'bitch' sign flashing over their heads that was always there but they didn't notice till the sex stopped. Divorce is high because people are spoiled. Men and women.
I feel little to no sympathy for people who claim their spouse suddenly became the devil overnight. There's always two in any tango. The nastier it is, the more both sides had to act to make it that way. That's just the way it is.