[HiJinx]

Good point, Tonk...sometimes the communications are not what we want our families to hear.

But, the supportive messages are necessary IMO.

Somebody already made my main point...a Colonel's wife is reduced to Ms. ... as though she's unmarried or still a little girl. How demeaning can you be? Oh, that's right. She's part of the military. Can't be bothered with those people's feelings, right?

[Katya]

"Somebody already made my main point...a Colonel's wife is reduced to Ms. ... as though she's unmarried or still a little girl."'

Huh? Are you confusing Ms. with Miss? Like it or not, Ms. has been the equivalent of Mr. since the 1970's. In professional environments and particularly in the media, you can't presume what someone wants to be called...so you go with the neutral. The reporter interviewing the subject would likely have been referring to her as Ms. Unless she corrected the reporter at the time, of course they'd refer to her as Ms. in print.