Son of divorce: Bob Just shares personal story, describes what true marriage is

WorldNetDaily.com ^ | March 12, 2005 | Bob Just

[dawn53]

Hi John,

Thanks for posting this. I really enjoyed it.

I saw a post the other day wondering if you were okay since you had been "missing" for a few days.

Glad to see you back.

[CDHart]

Good read -- he makes many good points.

Carolyn

[Yinzer]

Thanks for this

[MoralSense]

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[jocon307]

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[NTegraT]

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[KevinB]

Better for kids to live in two happy homes than one unhappy one. Also, many people do find happiness with the second marriage (I did) and in those cases the kids will have a model for how a marriage is supposed to work, which they wouldn't have had if the parents had stayed together.

[EmilyGeiger]

Very good article. My husband is from a family of divorce and he has said often he had some of the same feelings that were expressed here. Loves his parents, but he is closer to mine than his own.

[G.Mason]

"Our fear, our anger, our sense of betrayal, our self-loathing, fear of failure, fear of success (as something undeserved), and our often deeply depressive nature may cause us to harken to the angry demagogue politicians who outwardly echo our internal pain. In that sense, we are a "mob," full of dark emotions and looking for a leader."

I imagine this sixty something year old guy has been medicated all these years.

Obviously, with the election of President Bush, his world has changed.

The amount of medication needed for his continuing the euphoric, and mind numbing state he was in has become insufficient to sustain him.

One can only hope the doctor increases his drug dosage.

Afterall, we wouldn't want this ""mob," full of dark emotions and looking for a leader" to upset our perfect world.

[Tax-chick]

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[GovernmentShrinker]

The trouble with this sort of naive yearning for the "good old days", is that the culture advocated is precisely the one that produced a generation in which most people put "finding themselves" as their top priority, and divorced and remarried without regard for the effects on children. History repeats itself, and it will do so again -- if Act I happens again, Act II will follow again.

Although I'm of the writer's general age group, I grew up in a neighborhood where nearly all kids lived with their biological mother and father, who stayed married at least until the kids were grown up and moved away, and in most cases permanently. The still-married (or in a few cases (widows/widowers) parents of many of my childhood friends still live in the same houses in that neighborhood. But almost none of my generation from that neighborhood has chosen to replicate that lifestyle, myself included -- and I have no regrets about it.

[1234]

a very worthy post; touches well on personal responsibility for kids.

[1234]

ie. : the decision to have kids is too many times taken too lightly.

[Quix]

ABSOLUTELY FANTASTICALLY ACCURATE, WONDERFUL, INFORMATIVE, SOBERING, HALLMARK ARTICLE.

THANKS TONS.

Wish I could pay every living man, woman and child to read it.

[joesbucks]

My only complaint is those claim they want "christian middle class values" yet live their lives as free thinkers and against everything "middle class values" stand for.

The church really needs to begin earnest work on this.

[Hatteras]

26 kids in my 13-year old daughter's class, 16 of which have divorced parents. My daughter wanted to know when her mother and I could get a divorce so that she could start raking in the Christmas presents.

Seriously though, the numbers are quite astonishing that out of 26 kids, just 10 have a two-parent home. It's only a matter of time before they start bringing in a bartender and a live band for the PTA meetings.

[Maria S]

"..the decision to have kids is too many times taken too lightly."

Best comment of the bunch! It is unbelievable to me how little thought is given to having children. Along the lines of, "I know what! Let's go buy a couple of goldfish! That would be fun!"

[madprof98]

My wife works with Indians who generally have arranged marriages. They have a failure rate of about 5%. Talk about marriage as a way of discovering what love is! Astonishing to me that the self-described Christians (many of them here), who have a clear mandate from Jesus Himself to do just as well with their own marriages, no longer even see a lasting marriage and a stable home for children as an ideal.

[Mamzelle]

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